Couples marriage relationship counseling therapy

Any time people spend a lot of time together they're bound to argue. All couples argue. Happy and not so happy alike. Arguing doesn’t cause couples to split up. In fact, when people come to Couples Marriage Relationship Counseling Therapy it is the ones who don’t fight that are in serious trouble.




Alone & Isolated?
Not Understood?
We can’t communicate?
Unimportant – That I Don’t Matter?
Partner makes you feel Not Seen?
We’re arguing all the time even?
Your not being Heard?
That your not Good Enough?
Lots of Anger Issues?


Restore the closeness you once had?
Be able to communicate better?
Improve your intimacy?
Feel closer to each other?
Have the relationship you once had?
gain the trust you lost?


Lack of Trust?
Lack Of Connection?
Couples Marriage Relationship Counseling Therapy CAN HELP You

We Help Couples Restore The Close Emotional Connections They Want and Once Had. Learn New Skills To Save Your Relationship. More Relationships End Than Need Too.

We specialize in Couples Marriage Relationship Counseling Therapy in Hauppauge, NY Suffolk County, LI 11788

“The first and foremost instinct of humans is neither sex nor aggression. It is to seek contact and comforting connection.”

“When a partner gets the message that they are not important by being ignored or not responded to, his or her brain likely goes into a primal panic and sends danger signals to the rest of the body.”



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Attachment to a significant other is a natural drive and is just as powerful as drives like hunger, thirst or sex. The importance of attachment has been understood in healthy child development and its importance is now understood in adult relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on strengthening these close emotional bonds in relationships.

In EFT there is no attempt to re-negotiate new deals or resolve issues by making new agreements or contracts. EFT enables you to identify their underlying issues which will help create a more secure emotional bond. And once this bond is established, couples can more readily support each other and stop falling into an old predictable, circular pattern of interaction.

EFT will help you reconnect and form stronger, more secure bonds. Helping bring you back together.


Current research has shown that there are 10-15 things couples will fight about for their entire relationship. In addition, it also shows that 67% of all relationship issues will never be solved. They will just be managed. It is not whether a couple fights that determine divorce, but how they fight. More specifically, how this fighting spills over and contaminates the rest of the relationship.

The older model of Couples Marriage Relationship Counseling Therapy held the belief that ‘If couples could learn to fight better’ then everything would be okay. As a result, communication & conflict resolution techniques were introduced as a way of trying to save marriages. The long-held belief was that emotions were to be avoided in therapy at all costs. That emotions are messy and illogical and only got in the way of conflict resolution.

The problem is you can’t separate the emotions from the people who are having the disagreement. Ignoring emotions overlooks the fact that they are a great motivator for change. (In proper doses, anger motivates us to get up and do things, and worry motivates us to make plans.)

Luckily some really smart researchers and therapists realized that relationships aren’t like business negotiation where you barter for what you want. They realized that relationships are, in fact, emotional connections. Threats to these emotional bonds strain our sense of connection, resulting in a form of protest.


Let’s look at an example. A wife complains to her husband about an issue that the husband takes as nagging. This perceived nagging is actually the wife’s way of saying, “I need you, are you here for me? Can I count on you to be responsive to me?” The husband sees the complaint as a deficiency that he has, that he is not living up to his end of the bargain. This results in the husband emotionally closing down or stonewalling. Stonewalling causes the wife to protest even louder. And the cycle continues.

Wife: I’m not important to you because I can’t reach you. You’re not accessible and responsive. Then I will reach out to you louder until you hear me. (More complaining)

Husband: I’m not good enough because you are complaining. I hide or defend against this complaining because it makes me feel bad about myself. (More stonewalling)

The circle then continues until they get help or separate. Above is a very basic example. The roles could easily be reversed where the husband is doing the reaching and the wife has shut down. There are other variations to how couples interact and it is different for each couple.

It is this habitual, circular pattern of interaction that pushes people apart and causes couples to ultimately separate. The fighting has spilled over to become a threat to the relationship and is no longer just about the needs and longings.


general questions?

Appointments are by appointment only. we can not handle walk-ins. Please call, text, email, or fill out an appointment form and someone will reply back to you. Our professional agents will do their best to match you to a therapist based on your situation and needs.

Price varies based on if you have insurance or the type of therapy you are seeking. Please call, text, email, or fill out a request form, and someone will reply. Our professional office staff will do their best to match you to a therapist based on your situation and needs.

Please call, text, email or fill out a booking to schedule a time that works best. Our professional office manager will do her best to match you to a therapist based on your situation and needs.

We participate with most major insurance companies. Not all therapists participate with all insurance companies *1199 National Benefit Fund *Aetna Healthcare *Allied Benefit Systems, Inc. *Assurant Health Self-Funded *Blue Cross/Blue Shield - (Some Plans / Contact Your Provider) *CIGNA *CoreSource *Healthfirst - New York *Humana *Medicaid New York *Medicare New York (Downstate) *Meritain Health *Student Resources (UnitedHealthcare) *UMR (formerly UMR Wausau) *UnitedHealthcare (UHC) *UnitedHealthcare / Oxford *VA Community Care Network Region 1 *Value Options (Beacon Health Options) - Out Of Network Only

An insurance deductible is "The amount you pay for covered health care services before your insurance plan starts to pay". With a $2,000 deductible, for example, you pay the first $2,000 of covered services yourself before the insurance company will start to reimburse the health care provider. Once a deductible is met, the amount you have to pay for a copay/co-insurance is set by your insurance company. You will need to contact them for the exact amount.

VERIFICATION OF INSURANCE DOES NOT GUARANTEE PAYMENT FROM YOUR INSURANCE COMPANY Pay portions are estimates based on the information provided to Transformations Counseling Group, LCSW by the patient and his or her insurance carrier. The patient/guarantor must understand that having an insurance benefit does not guarantee payment. Exact benefits are determined when claims are received by your insurance company. There is no guarantee on our part that claims will be paid. If a claim is denied, the client will be immediately billed for the outstanding amount while the denial is investigated. The insurance carrier makes the final decision as to whether payment will be made after it receives and reviews the claim. Some insurance companies use third-party processors for handling their mental health claims. This may be unknown to us at the time we verify your insurance and the information we receive can be inaccurate. We strongly recommend you check with your insurance provider for further explanation of your coverage. When a client is treated at Transformations Counseling Group, LCSW (TCG), as a courtesy, TCG’s staff contacts the patient’s third-party payor to check insurance eligibility and pre-certification for insurance payment. We do our best to get accurate information but verification doesn't guarantee payment or accuracy. We advise you to call and check with your insurance for your exact plan benefits. Every insurance policy is different. It is recommended that you contact your provider about copayment, deductible and out-of-pocket expenses, and pre-certification requirements. Also, as a courtesy, Transformations Counseling Group. LCSW will bill the client’s insurance carrier for services. The patient/guarantor is responsible for all outstanding balances should the insurance company fail to pay all or any part of the charges. The client’s Financial Counselor must be informed of all insurance coverage prior to the first visit. Any non-payment as a result of the patient’s/guardian’s failure to provide insurance information prior to the first visit is also the patient’s/guarantor's financial responsibility. It is the patient’s/guarantor’s responsibility to ensure that all insurance premiums, dues, and COBRA payments are current throughout the patient’s treatment at Transformations Counseling Group, LCSW PLLC Any costs incurred by the patient/guarantor due to a change in the patient’s insurance policy are the sole responsibility of the patient/guarantor. The patient’s insurance coverage is a contract between the client and an insurance carrier – not between Transformations Counseling Group, LCSW, and the insurance carrier. As such, the patient should be aware that insurance policies often change. It is the client’s sole responsibility to know his or her coverage. Any costs incurred by the patient/guarantor due to a change in the patient’s insurance policy are the sole responsibility of the patient/guarantor.

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